Abel Mutua?s wife on their marriage struggle and why they aren?t on any family planning
Content creator Judy Nyawira-Mutua has opened up on why she and her husband, actor and screenwriter Abel Mutua, do not use any form of family planning.
Ideally, one would expect the couple to be on some form of contraceptive after publicly stating that they do not intend to have another child other than their 14-year-old daughter Mumbua.
But Bi Mkurugenzi has revealed that she and her husband have not been involved in family planning for several years.
?I am not on any family planning method. I do not use any. My husband and I have become very good at withdrawal if you know what I mean. Just like you would withdraw money from Mpesa shop, that?s what we do and the doctor told us that it cannot be classified as family planning,? Bi Mkurugenzi reveals.
Before deciding on the withdrawal method, Judy said she had been using the Jadelle family planning method for three years, but it was not working for her.
?I had to get rid of it because I was bleeding three-quarters of the month. Then I was advised to try the IUD (coil) method, which also didn?t work because I had a lot of discomfort. So I had to get rid of it and since then we have been on the Mpesa (withdrawal) method,? she adds.
According to health journals, the withdrawal method, also known as the pull-out method, can?t be classified as a family planning method as it has a one in five chance of getting pregnant if not paired with a more effective form of contraception.
However, health experts note that the withdrawal method is better than no contraception at all when trying to prevent pregnancy.
Giving his argument on why he does not plan to have another child, the screenwriter stated that he only intended to have one child that he could adequately and fully provide for without any struggle or pressure.
The couple has been together for 15 years now and have been married for seven of those years.
Speaking about their marriage, Nyawira revealed that it hasn?t been all roses for them even though they are often perceived as a happy couple.
?Marriage is not for the faint-hearted. It?s the most beautiful thing, but it?s also one of the hardest things you can ever find yourself in. When you start dating, there?s always too much love between the two of you, but you can?t keep that up for 15 years. There are days when this wife or husband thing doesn?t work. Neither one wants to see the other. For us to maintain that spark over the years, we leaned more toward friendship,? she adds.
